Ashley S:
“I met J.D. through a friend whose grounded and thoughtful energy I've always admired. One morning over coffee, I remember asking, ‘How are you this way? How is it that you are able to withstand the pain of this life and the pressures of your work? Whatever it is you are doing, please share it with me.’ He said, with a knowing smile, ‘You've got to meet J.D.’
I didn't know it five months ago when we began working together, but I was seeking someone settled — someone to help me discover myself and envision a future where I wasn't detached from, at war with, or in denial of who I've been and what my body (and spirit) need. I'm a 33-year-old dark-skinned Black woman and the eldest child of South American immigrants — who has been told that her purpose in life is to never settle. My body has kept the score of that mandate. I have been hyper-vigilant, deeply sacrificial, and not at all able to accept need as anything other than weakness in myself.
It has taken J.D.'s gentle (yet firm), open, and humble teaching to release some of the narratives and patterns that bind me. I can now think about what other kinds of experiences or outcomes might be possible if I become aware enough of my needs to choose different ways of being. Somatic coaching has been such a gratifying reintroduction to self; such an opening of the aperture of what my future could hold... and it happens moment by moment. There are conversations where J.D. offers new language for old patterns; languid afternoons spent breathing deep and watching the sky, grass, and leaves take on a more vivid hue; it's unpacking what I've already expressed verbally in therapy on a cellular level.
I wish I had the words to express how incredibly healing this chapter of my life has been.”